The definition of compassion, according to Dictionary.com, is
“a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.”
Many of us struggle with compassion because we have what I call a tender heart. We feel deeply, and we want to help others through adversity and pain. Having a tender heart can be both a blessing and an obstacle. Being compassionate and aware of others’ feelings can help you navigate rough waters for you and others. Sometimes we need someone willing to listen, support us and sit beside us during challenging times. Most of us who receive help turn around and do the same for another. Unfortunately, this is not always the case, so you need to understand the difference between unconditional support – support you are lending because it is what is in your heart. And conditional support, provided with the expectation of something in return.
There are so many external obstacles in our lives right now. There are conflicts and disagreements about everything from politics to social injustice to our health. We are all feeling it and carefully trying to do what we think is the best in each situation. Inevitably, we will not understand each other’s views on specific topics. We will have different experiences or cultural backgrounds. We will have been raised in an environment that influences us in conflicting ways to our friends, neighbors, or colleagues, and because of this, we will not agree.
What does this have to do with compassion? We need one another now more than ever. We need mercy for those around us, attempting to help one another through these times and to learn ways to relate to each other. We do not always have to approve our neighbors’ actions or opinions to show support or lend a hand. There are countless opportunities to help others and to be compassionate. Volunteer at your favorite charity. Help out a friend in need. Be a safe place for someone who needs to confide.
What if we gave this a try, rather than continuing to battle and add to the contention? Just a thought.
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