Co-parenting is not always as easy as we hope it will be. There will likely be times when it will be more difficult than others. Creating a peaceful environment for our children is at the top of the priority list, so focusing on a few easy ways to implement change can help you achieve this goal.
Here are three ways to simplify the process:
Keep it Simple
You need to parent your children, and let’s be honest; sometimes, there is a difference in opinion or preference for making this happen. Whether it is a salty split, a difference in parenting styles, or just an awkward situation, less is more.
Keep the schedules consistent and communication brief. The more interaction between two disagreeing parents, the more children feel caught in the middle of conflict, which is never a healthy place. If this tends to be a pattern, start communicating through email and text. This allows the ability to review words before hitting send. It also keeps the interaction focused on the kids and their schedules and leaves no room for question or argument. There might still be challenges, but using this guideline as an essential rule of thumb will be more peaceful for exchanges and communication.
Learn the Art of Compromise
The power struggle is real, and we all want to win our side of the argument. You’ll be going back and forth on enough issues throughout the years if you can give in on something that is not the end of the world for you, but will make the other parent feel they have won a battle, give it up! I have seen this strategy work wonders for co-parenting couples I know, and in the end, we are just trying to make it easier on our children (and all involved).
Recognize the Positives
It is not easy for us to work on our shortcomings, so if you see progress from the other parent, show a little appreciation. We all want to recognition for our efforts, and it takes nothing from us to throw out a thank you. A few positive reinforcements can go a long way in improving behaviors and communication, and our kiddos are always watching, so you might even give them a lesson in positive reinforcement in action.
We all want to be acknowledged for our good behaviors, especially when it is challenging to make these improvements, so throw out a thank you or show appreciation for the effort when you see it.
Let us know some strategies that you have found helpful if you have had challenges co-parenting. We all need a little help navigating this process, and it is always nice to know we aren’t alone, and it gets better.
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